- Talking about “discipline” in the church community can be off-putting, even intimidating. But, in what ways can this “tough love” actually be a form of care, kindness, and grace?
- What would it take to foster a caring, “safe,” gracious, winsome community that is also truth-telling and honest about sin?
In families and other close communities, sometimes we operate with a version of a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. … Communities that love truth will make a safe place for the awkwardness of confession, forgiveness, and healing. Where truthfulness and confession are practiced, communities depend on fidelity, the assurance that members won’t abandon one another as they reveal their sins and weaknesses and move toward maturity and holiness. Truthful communities are communities of encouragement and hospitality.
Christine Pohl
A critical test of genuine love is whether we are willing to confront those we care for. Nothing is more difficult than disciplining a brother or sister in Christ who is trapped in sin. It is always agonizing work – messy, complicated, often unsuccessful, emotionally exhausting, and potentially divisive. This is why most church leaders avoid discipline at all costs. But that is not love.
Alexander Strauch